Self Esteem Growth Technique

Self Esteem Growth Technique
Self esteem is number 4 in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs (1943). Most basic need for human is physical survival (physiological). Then safety, love / family / belongings, esteem and  self actualization. Third in this hierarchy is love and family. Parents love their children but at the same time, they put comparison in front of their children of successful people in their surroundings, without any research and analysis what their children are capable of doing. Four elements (ingredients) make the self esteem; thoughts, feelings, imagination and intuition (the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning).. Self esteem starts getting hurt / influence in this comparison. If thought is wrong, feelings will be wrong and life decisions on the basis of intuition would be wrong. Suppose a group of 10 in a family or friends; one has good job or position; the rest 9 with low esteem will affect his esteem too with their complaints and comments. 
Words make / ruin the world. ["Be mindful when it comes to your words. A string of some that don't mean much to you, may stick with someone else for a lifetime." "Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder." "One kind word can change someone's entire day." "Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs." "Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble." "Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." "Be careful what you say. You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there." "Words are seeds that do more than blow around. They land in our hearts and not the ground. Be careful what you plant and careful what you say. You might have to eat what you planted one day." "Your words have power. Speak words that are kind, loving, positive, uplifting, encouraging, and life-giving." "Kind words are a creative force, a power that concurs in the building up of all that is good, and energy that showers blessings upon the world."] Self esteem is the level of human. Self esteem is fine line between human and animal. Animals don't have self esteem. Next is (ashraful makhluqat) 'mankind the crown of creation'. Every human claims this title but in actual it needs some more qualification (self actualization). This is a level where one can practice respect for self and others. Here is no leg pulling etc.
Enhance your confidence through practice and techniques. You can find some people who when you come across, you feel more confident and vice versa. So your responsibility is to spend more time with category # 1 and gradually make some distance with category # 2. They may be dressing like 'mankind the crown of creation' but actually they are not.
List down in writhing, what you want in life. Normally, we focus in life, what we don't need. Express, talk; what you want, don't be shy. Be verbal after listing what you want.
Howard University's research says average thoughts per day for a normal person are 60,000. Most people answered 50% good (positive) and 50% bad (negative) thoughts, they encounter. All these elements are rooted to thoughts. What you think about yourself is self esteem. Only saying daily and convincing yourself that I'm alright; will not work. The factors, reasons, persons, locations, events; you have to make a list in writing that affect your self esteem. There is list of events where one feels self in odd situation. Thought, feeling and act; are interlinked. Information come from five senses. Thoughts directly influence feelings. It is possible that you can interrupt thoughts so that they cannot affect the feelings. You can exercise on imagination. Imagine that situation with closed eyes so that you are listening what irritating voice you dislike (boss, insulting friend, anyone). But now during this exercise imagine that you have volume control with you. Do the volume as low as you don't listen them. Now their lips are moving but you are not listening their voice in your imagination. After few days practice you will be able to control the feelings generated by that voice.

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